A self-righteous attitude can have detrimental effects on relationships, leading to strained dynamics and even the breakdown of communication. When someone adopts a self-righteous behavior, they often believe that their opinions and actions are superior to others, causing them to dismiss the perspectives and feelings of those around them.

One of the consequences of this attitude is the creation of resentment from others. When individuals consistently assert their righteousness, it can breed frustration and anger in those who feel dismissed or invalidated. This resentment builds over time and can create a toxic environment within relationships.

Moreover, communication breakdown is a common outcome when one person takes on a self-righteous attitude. Instead of engaging in open dialogue and actively listening to others’ perspectives, individuals with this mindset tend to dominate conversations with their own opinions. This hinders effective communication as it prevents genuine exchange of ideas and inhibits collaborative problem-solving.

In today’s fast-paced and interconnected world, it is disheartening to witness a lack of empathy and understanding towards others. This issue is often seen in self-righteous individuals who are unable to see beyond their own perspectives, leading to a dismissive attitude towards those who hold different views.

Empathy plays a crucial role in fostering healthy relationships and building strong communities. It allows us to connect with others on a deeper level, acknowledging their emotions and experiences. However, when empathy is lacking, it creates a barrier that prevents meaningful connections from forming.

One of the main reasons for this lack of empathy is the inability to see other perspectives. Self-righteous individuals tend to believe that their own beliefs and opinions are the only valid ones, dismissing any alternative viewpoints as unworthy or misguided. This narrow-mindedness hinders open dialogue and inhibits personal growth.

Furthermore, this dismissive attitude can have far-reaching consequences on both personal and societal levels. It can lead to increased polarization, hostility, and division among people with differing opinions. Without empathy, we fail to understand the struggles faced by others or recognize the impact of our actions on their lives.

Yes, that’s right…no more lying or pretending I don’t hide behind my imperfections. It’s been a long road the last few years. And the last few weeks. What makes me so happy is I have learned who my friends and family really are. Who really loves me and will stick by me through everything.

I must admit…My NCO leadership is first and foremost the best in the United States Army. From my SGM, MSG to my Chain of command to a former coworker who came in and asked “how are you doing” …and it was sincere…never underestimate a hello to someone who might be smiling and really trying to hide all the hurt.

My family who no matter what has always been there for me.

And last but no least.my dear friends…who have called and known firsthand me destruction…

The ex. Although I will never believe putting my addictions publicly on my Facebook, calling my chain of command or police was a self-desperation to try to save me. He left out the part he drank just as much as me and never refused my medication when it was in the cabinet.

Listen to the song Save Me by Unwritten Law…only I could only save myself.

Lack of empathy is another result of a self-righteous mindset. By believing that their own beliefs and behaviors are inherently correct, individuals may struggle to understand or empathize with the experiences and viewpoints of others. This lack of empathy further widens the gap between people, making it difficult to foster understanding and connection.

I thought the breakup was motivation and what woke me up to self-refer to ASAP…to start using the 12 steps and for the first time see that really my addictions were destroying my life and every relationship I had.

But it wasn’t.it was my family and sadly the Army…

I’m unsure what happens with a lot of things in my life when a get back to Texas. And I was wrong with a lot of things. I shouldn’t have had male friends who wanted to have sex with me as “friends” because I never saw their ulterior motive.

Yes, I miss my life. But I’m unsure if the real me misses him. Or the addict in me misses him…

I’m blogging more because I have so much on my mind. Not drinking or taking pills makes me realize a lot more.

Yes, just because a doctor prescribes medication does not mean it’s okay to abuse them.

I could be afraid that anyone who reads this public blog might look at me differently.

But I have accepted the fact that anyone who judges me doesn’t really care or love me…it’s those who support me through this who are worth having in my life.

And if anyone is so perfect without fault in their life. Well fantastic. I’m not.

So now that everyone including my fearless leaders know everything and every mistake I have made, I can now live my life free of denial and shame.

Yes, I’m an addict…yes, I fucked up a lot of things in my life. Yes, I made poor choices and decisions because I was thinking with my heart and emotions and not seeing the bigger picture.

Adopting a self-righteous attitude can have negative impacts on relationships by fostering resentment, hindering empathy, and causing communication breakdowns. It is important for individuals to recognize these consequences in order to cultivate healthier connections built on mutual respect and understanding.

Yes, I have drunk to the point of passing out and being in the hospital…yes, I have male friends who say sexual comments to me, and I don’t tell them to go away. NO, it’s not because I somehow need attention, but really boys will be boys.

Effective communication is the cornerstone of any healthy relationship. However, when a self-righteous attitude comes into play, it can impede dialogue and create breakdowns in communication. This defensive behavior and refusal to listen can lead to escalating conflicts and hinder the resolution of issues.

When individuals adopt a self-righteous mindset, they firmly believe that their perspective is the only correct one. They dismiss others’ opinions or experiences as invalid or irrelevant, which creates a barrier to productive conversation. This closed-minded approach prevents them from truly understanding different viewpoints and finding common ground.

Moreover, self-righteousness often triggers defensive behavior in both parties involved in a discussion. Instead of actively listening and trying to understand each other’s perspectives, individuals become focused on defending their own views at all costs. This defensive stance further exacerbates the communication breakdown and perpetuates an atmosphere of hostility.

As conflicts escalate due to self-righteousness, meaningful dialogue becomes nearly impossible. The focus shifts from resolving issues collaboratively towards winning arguments or proving oneself right. Consequently, relationships suffer as trust erodes and resentment builds up.

I am single. I had to move out suddenly…but in a text someone wrote to my sister “she’s your problem now”.

It makes me sad that someone would date me much less marry me, if I was just a problem.

No, I didn’t stay in a relationship because somehow someone things I be afraid of being alone. One can be in a room full of people and be alone…I was alone when I had someone to go home to each night.

Yet now. I’m technically “alone because I’m single” …yet I’m surrounded by people who love me.

I want to end with this. Alcohol, addiction, drug addiction really knows no boundaries. And my problem wasn’t that I did stuff to self-destruct my life…the issue wasn’t alcohol or pills. The issue was “why I felt I needed to do it.”

I don’t have a date with an old boyfriend tonight. Just like I never had dinner or have seen my friend I tagged in last week. While moving on might get my mind off a broken heart. Right now, I need to fix myself. And the last thing I want is another dude.

I’m not ready to date. I’m not at the point where I can just shut off my feelings and emotions by talking to males.

Although I’m sure the ex thinks I’m out whoring around being inappropriate.

That’s my rant…my heart hurts and as much as I love being home. Being vindictive isn’t going to make things better.

A mean post on his FB upset me. Of course, I shouldn’t go to his page, but I do…this is a man I loved. Someone I wanted to spend the rest of my life with.

I’m not sure what hurts the most…how he is treating me or lack thereof now. Or reading how miserable I made him and how unhappy his life was with me.

It makes a girl feel bad about herself.

Everything happens for a reason…I’m home which is directly because of the situation with the ex and I. But let’s face it. Broken hearts suck.

I have a lot on my plate…moving, Army stuff, issues with my son and the loss of the ex-fiancé.

Why do people treat those with addictions as lepers? How is drug addition any different from over eating? It is crucial for us as individuals and as a society to address this lack of empathy head-on. By actively seeking out diverse perspectives, engaging in respectful dialogue, and practicing active listening, we can begin bridging the gap between ourselves and others.

To overcome these challenges, it is essential for individuals to recognize the detrimental effects of a self-righteous attitude on effective dialogue. Open-mindedness and empathy are key components for fostering healthy communication. By actively listening without judgment and considering alternative perspectives, individuals can break down barriers and find common ground for constructive conversation.

A self-righteous attitude impedes effective dialogue by creating communication breakdowns in relationships. Defensive behavior and refusal to listen hinder understanding and escalate conflicts unnecessarily. By cultivating open-mindedness and empathy, individuals can overcome these obstacles and foster healthier communication dynamics in their relationships.

Fostering empathy requires an open mind and willingness to understand different viewpoints. By recognizing our own biases and challenging our assumptions, we can break free from self-righteousness and cultivate a more empathetic society where understanding thrives.

Until Next Time